Have you guys ever had this thought? That you are single bc you want to be? I think about it all of the time like, why am I single? I really would rather be single than be with a man who’s going to separate me from God, make me miserable, & bring so much pain into my life. Being with the wrong man does that.
I am in my mid 30’s now. I used to seriously beat myself up over not being married or having kids already. But you know what? I think it’s the BEST thing that’s happened to me. Maybe I thought I was mature enough to handle marriage, but I would’ve ended up in divorce court & this is God’s way of protecting me while He prepares me for my destiny. If this is the plan God had for me, I welcome it with open arms! Because I know only He knows the future & He has my best interest at ❤.
If I end up getting married at 40, so be it. As long as it’s God’s will, I wouldn’t have it any other way. ❤ Being raised in a conservative Hispanic country, meant there were always double standards, boys were almost always preferred over girls (unless you were the pretty popular one which I WASN’T lol, growing up I was awkward & weird haha!!), they always got to do the fun stuff, go outside, learn, experiment, even got more gifts & preferential treatment. If you’re a girl, the message is, you suck, go clean something lol. You were groomed for marriage & to serve your husband from day 1. At least that’s how I was raised. So you tend to grow up thinking that nothing else in the world matters, that marriage just seems so awesome & one day, I will be happy when my prince charming comes to save me from this awful life. You never develop your own dreams & talents because, well you’re a girl & your only job is to be a wife.
This narrative is simply, such a big false lie. This leads many women, including myself, down a dark path of depression, self- hatred, & anger that only God can break you free from. No man, no person, can give you the happiness, peace,& fulfillment we need as humans. (There’s also the flip- side to this which is just as false, thinking that only YOU can save YOU. I will write more about this lie from the enemy later.) Men (or women) are NOT our saviors. Only Jesus is our savior!!!
And that He did!!!! Jesus saved me. He broke me free. God is MY true love. We have the freedom to find our happiness, which lies in Him. We women have the freedom to work for what we want & create the life we want. We have the freedom to ask God where He wants to use us, what is His purpose for us? And let Him create something beautiful in us. We cannot go relying on people to do things for us, because at the end of the day, each and every one of us is accountable to God for the work we did on earth. This is not to say we cannot accept help, either. Accepting help & knowing when you need it, are vital.
The truly important thing in dating & life is, not trying to impress the men who don’t even care, who will probably be out of your life the next month, but trying to impress our true love, Jesus.
Hope you have a blessed day! 🙂 Xoxo 💖